By Freya Ray
What is required to conceive a child? In many of
our cultural roots, the conception of a child was always by the grace of God, and when having trouble conceiving, prayer was
the answer. In more recent times in much of our culture, trouble conceiving is met with medical intervention of many kinds.
What if there is another spiritual answer, reflecting the current stage of human evolution?
I have had many clients who have tried unsuccessfully
to conceive children. Rather than finding one cause, there are a host of reasons, stemming from physical, mental, emotional,
and spiritual sources. Each potential parent can examine all of these areas, to find that which feels out of balance in his
or her life.
Physically, I see difficulties from diet and exercise,
and this can apply to both the mother and the father. Poor diet can be a contributing factor - junk food toxifies the body,
soda unbalances the body's pH, all processed foods lack the vital nutrition available in a fresh, organic diet. If the mother's
diet is deficient, there isn't a welcoming home for the child. If the father's diet is lacking, the mother's body can reject
the "incoming material" as a toxic invasion! Sometimes a change in lifestyle is recommended - more exercise, particularly
yoga, swimming, or walking.
Mentally and emotionally, I encourage clients to
take an inventory of their fears. If the parents doubt their ability to provide, mistrust this world as a safe place for children,
or have reservations about their chosen partner, that can prevent conception. Additionally, anything unresolved from their
childhood (ways in which they feel their parents let them down) can block them from opening. A host of standard and unconventional
therapeutic methods can assist in resolving these blockages - therapy, journaling, meditation, massage, energy work, etc.
Spiritually difficulties come from two main sources.
The importance of past life influences cannot be overstated. I know a woman who miscarried three times, due primarily to a
past life in which she had to kill her own children and herself to prevent their being taken into slavery - a much worse fate
than death in that culture. Although that memory was a thousand years old, it left a residue of deep-seated fear. She was
convinced she was unable to guarantee the safety of a child. Remembering and releasing that lifetime's painful legacy would
open the way for having children now. For help with this, I recommend Richard Webster's book, Practical Guide to Past-Life Memories.
The other primary spiritual problem with conception
comes from the children themselves. It is typical for a child's soul to hover near their potential parents for a few years
prior to coming in, making sure of their choice. Recently I see some of these little beings with their arms crossed, in an
attitude of "are you ever going to get it?" The children are refusing to
come in until their parents have passed a particular spiritual hurdle. It might be that the parents need to pursue Tantric
practice, so their lovemaking is an intentional communion with the divine. It might be that their mother needs to learn to
meditate. Both parents might need to figure out what their life purpose is, and live it more intentionally. The reason for
this additional set of child-prompted demands is that these are Indigo children, and they will require special kinds of spiritual
support as they grow up. They need their parents to have certain spiritual skills and openness, and they refuse to be born
if they're not going to get what they want.
An invitation can be incredibly powerful. Some souls
want to be specifically invited. Set up a parenting altar, full of your wishes for the child, and for yourself as a parent.
Pray, asking for guidance on how to become a parent. Pray to the soul of the child, inviting them to take residence in your
womb. Make love with your partner in a sacred setting, inviting your favorite deities and archangels to attend and facilitate
conception. Throw out your fertility calendar and thermometer and be in love with all of life, your partner, your self, and
When a child is conceived, they receive their inheritance.
A child starts life with a mix of resources and influences. This mix is 1/3 parental wisdom, 1/3 ancestral lineage, and 1/3
their past lives. The parental wisdom is everything their parents have learned and experienced up through the moment of conception.
Ancestrally, they also inherit the wisdom and weaknesses of everyone who has preceded them. The remaining part of the mix
is the past life influences they choose to have with them this time. As parents, you have control over 2/3 of this. You can
do your very best to learn your lessons and heal your pain. Any work you do on healing your ancestry removes the burden of
that healing from your child (Psychogenetics by Chris Griscom provides one
Now, to clarify: I in no way mean to imply that being
childless is a sign of a lack of evolution. This is not the new, metaphysical
way to say "God doesn't favor you." Some people are not destined to have children. Some people need medical help to conceive.
Sometimes we just won't understand what's going on at all. The preceding information is a set of suggestions, directions to
explore. If you are trying to conceive, and some piece of this resonated for you, explore it. If some piece of it made you
angry, scared, or depressed, explore why. My intention is to broaden the field in which you search, as you invite that special
soul to share your life.
In love and light…